Author: The Author & Anchor

Partnerships come in many forms. The definition is rooted in the premise that all parties play an integral role in the advancement of a mutual entity for a greater purpose. It is the same in relationships. When two people with varied successes bond (become life partners so to speak), they must not confine the power of the union to personal fulfillment. Therein lies an opportunity to combine talent, knowledge and experience to further respective development as well as serve a common good. The clichéd belief there must be a “50/50” apportionment of God-given gifts between man and woman has evolved. As a couple, commit to giving 100% percent of yourselves (empowered by the support you provide one another) to benefit the whole; to contribute to a society that helps you achieve. The Author (Carlos Wallace) and the Anchor (Liz Faublas) agree they are much more effective and empowering together. By combining collective experience in media, production, writing/authorship, public speaking, and philanthropy, they understand the decision to pool abilities in order to enlighten, lead and support their communities comes with great responsibility. Each humbly admits they cannot do it without the support of others. Our blog posts will promote accountability, awareness, progress, service, commitment and above all, strength in numbers. It takes more than an author and an anchor to change the world. This is a first step in galvanizing a group of like-minded people to join the fight. Welcome one and all. Now, let’ s make a difference.

Stop giving people permission to hurt your feelings.

I believe that adults who have experienced some of the worst life has to offer-whether it be in their personal, professional, or even spiritual lives—know that things will not always go their way and people will disappoint. Most times, people are only looking out for themselves or they associate with you because of what you can do for them. Pragmatism ain’t always pretty. The problem many of us have is accepting this reality. Truth is, when things do not go as we expected or people hurt us, we are not so much angry at the offenders for revealing who they are; we want to kick ourselves because they are not who we wanted them to be.

The need for validation is debilitating. There is a big difference between valuing the opinions of those we trust and who have our best interests at heart, and needing your boss, your friend, your mate to approve everything you do for your accomplishments to matter. That is an emotional vice-grip that will ultimately choke the life out of you. To give anyone that much power over your feelings and your reason for being is tantamount to selling your soul to a buyer who will never appreciate (nor care about) its value. It’s a waste of your time and effort.

Never surrender who you are, what you achieve, what you are capable of to the care of others. Own your individuality, what you create and the magnificent person you are destined to be. People cannot take what is wholly and unquestionably yours. No one can rearrange the steps God has ordered. Master becoming confident, independent, determined, and downright fearless. Stop throwing the word friend, sister, brother, “ride-or-die” around arbitrarily. Everyone has not earned those titles. Know the difference between a true friend, acquaintance, co-worker. Be careful who you allow in your circle.

No, it will not be easy. But it is possible and it is necessary if you are ever going to be free. You may bend, you may even crack, but your innate strength (much of which may be untapped) will never allow you to shatter or break beyond repair.

There are people in your life who genuinely care about you. They are the ones who are present when you are doing well and they are the ones who come through when you hit rock bottom. The others, just happen to share the same air. Never make them the breath of life.

Note the difference.

You can sit and wait for directions, we’ll rise up and lift the weight of oppression…

Message From A Black Wife, Mother, Sister, Aunt, Friend, Woman You hesitate to publicly stand up for George Floyd and other Black victims of senseless injustice but who, exactly, are you afraid you might offend? Because anyone who does not recognize the indefensible immorality, the … Continue reading You can sit and wait for directions, we’ll rise up and lift the weight of oppression…